Hi guys!
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First of all, sorry to those who read my blog for not posting for so long. I have been thinking a lot about certain subjects concerning my life recently and I have come to the conclusion that I worry too much. The very result of this is that I end up not doing the things I have planned to do in a particular day. It may be to do with the fact that I am an introvert or perhaps with my anxiety but nevertheless there is the fact that I worry too much about things that I should be rather excited about. It would take my whole life to recall all the moments when I have worried or stressed about something, but that is not the point. What is important is that up to this day I have been extremely scared of new experiences but more importantly I have been scared of life itself. I am scared to live to the fullest in a fear that someone might not like the way I live or that something, a stage of my life, will end. But enough of my rambling on. Now that you have a slight idea of what some of us may feel like about life, I'd like to share with you what to do when you worry too much or when fears seem unfathomable.
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To begin with, I once read in an article that the feelings of fear and loneliness are the breeding ground for negative, self-critical thoughts. Immediately, I thought 'Hmmm, that's kinda bad thing'. But then after a good night's sleep, these words appeared in my mind again and I experienced a moment of sudden realisation-- what literary critics call epiphany. What I concluded from this was that self-criticism isn't that destructive at all; I would even say that it is the opposite of destructive-- is it constructive. Let me explain to you. Whether self-criticism is evoked by fear, loneliness or any other negative feeling, it helps our personalities expand and move on to the next stage of personal discovery. In simple words, unless we have realised that one has to critique their attitude, personality or even behaviour we will never come to terms with negative feelings such as fear and worry. So when you feel worried, absolutely down about life and you feel like nothing makes sense any longer or maybe you're just too exhausted with life-- regardless of what you feel-- you must always find time for self-critical thoughts, otherwise you will be stuck in the mode of negative thinking which you will be unable to resolve.
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Obviously, being critical about your own thinking or attitude is not the easiest of things; it is not our second nature at the end of the day. We like being praised and the thought of being criticised is rather difficult to accept. But we're not talking about letting people dictate what you should change about yourself, we're talking about 'you' telling yourself how to be a better version of yourself. It may seem hard at first but it actually is not. You may, for example, want to change the fact that you never get things done on time or that you keep on procrastinating, or that you are not nice to others when you're tired. Whatever it is, small or big, you always need to find time to reflect on your attitude and personality and change something about yourself in order to be a better version of yourself and not worry as much. P.S. We all know that nobody is perfect.
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Let me tell you what I have criticised about myself and how I have approached it. In high school I was always the hard-working student with brilliant work-ethic but in college something inside me snapped and my studious personality decided to rebel. This obviously was not ideal as A-levels require you to have that 'brilliant work-ethic' that I once used to have. The worst thing though-- yes there was something worse-- was that I was not bothered and decided to not do my homework and skip lessons. When I came to reviewing why I went from A grades to E grades, I was paralysed by the amount of work I had to catch up with. But after a while's thought I realised that I had used up all of my energy in high school because I never rewarded myself for studying well. This conclusion though was kind of lenient toward me and led me into thinking that therefore I was not responsible for my grade deterioration. It wasn't until my second year of college that I decided to stop deceiving myself and told myself upfront that I was simply being lazy. You may think that that was harsh but self-criticism requires from you to be tough on yourself otherwise you will not learn from it. Just take me as an example; I thought that the main cause of my problem was lack of self-reward but that led me into thinking that therefore I had the right to feel down and not work as hard. If I hadn't told myself that all I was doing was being lazy and looking for excuses to not do my work, I would still be that old me lying on the couch watch 'Vampire Diaries' instead of doing my college work.
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Remember every one of us needs to be harsh on themselves in order to learn and improve. If you are constantly telling yourself that you're going to have that piece of chocolate because you're feeling upset today and if you do that every time you crave chocolate, it means that you have to use your self-critical skills and deal with the inner cause of the problem. Not only will this help you be happier but you will also worry less as you will find yourself to be more efficient and consistent. I hope that you guys can too find inner strength and some self-critical ability to solve your own problems. Whether big or small it is always worth resolving any problems you may have before they escalate all at once.
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Stay positive as always and have a lovely evening.
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Lots of love xxx